So, this is one of those times when you wish there could be a better communicator of emotions than typing words on your Gmail chat window. A rare phenomena- when chatting with a loved one seems to be overly magnified to the extent that it stops making sense. Worth blogging about.
We have numerous kinds of people on our chat list- College friends, MBA friends, random friends etc. The following is a classic example of how internet fails to connect with different profiles.
Chatting with
some friend is starkly different than chatting with your gf. For one, you dont care how your words will be perceived at the other end. You do but the essence of the actual message carries much more weight than the expressions used while typing the message. Here is where you can afford to slack while conversing with college friends. You can drop off the conversation abruptly without expecting a backlash. You can decide how much expressive you want to be- too many smileys, words etc v/s single monosyllables depending on mood and person. No one exactly cares. I can take 2 seconds or 10 minutes to respond. No one cares. It is not thought of a big deal. What if I am in the middle of something and can’t attend to the so called ping. Who cares? Maybe, I am thinking about a critical world issue but am online just for the heck of it. Maybe, I am lazy and not in a mood of typing. Maybe, I am tired of my laptop and want to stay as far as possible from it. Maybe, Gmail is one of the thousand tabs opened on chrome/Firefox and I don’t see the small ticker on the Gmail tab. Maybe, my computer is on mute and I don’t hear the buzz. But, at the end of all this, one does back to them whenever it is possible from our end.
All the above trends are reversed when chatting with gf. If you don’t respond within milliseconds, you are probably in the line of fire. If you don’t respond in an expected manner, you would get it. If you reply in mono-syllables, be prepared for agony. The factors discussed above simply don't figure in the response process from the other end. Reasoning is thrown out of the chat window. The 'Ping' supersedes every other display of emotion/affection demonstrated ever since. It may be amplified to the extent that there could be everlasting upsetting battles on the brief 2 min exchange over the net. So much for being ignorant. Bottom line- a delay of more than 2 seconds OR an unexpected response in an unexpected packaging implies you screwed up. And this is when you don’t mean what is finally perceived at the other end. Most of us would be like 'I love her' obviously because I do love her. But then guess what. You are in the middle of a cranky excel sheet trying to punch in some numbers and in response to 'baby', you reply 'y' (implying Yes). This is enough to set things on fire.
So, the next question is what can be done. As guys and Indians, we can probably automate the replying mechanism. Such as a :* being sent automatically on a ping. Or, a <3 would work as well. Other alternative is to be human again and stop relying on the internet altogether. That would mean an end to the perennially open Gmail tab. No flute. No sound. And of course, revert back to the old AT&T. That could solve matters.
But as the GenX, most of the above is difficult to pull off (Except for the Automating bit. You would not want to do that for if she does ever find out that, being beaten to death might not be ruled out). So, there needs to be an in built system that would jump with the slightest of pings by the loved one (Or a huge trigger alert). Even if it is a buzz, screw the laziness, change the mood, forget other work, and close other tabs. Keep an eye on Gmail (like every 2 seconds) to check out any developments. And when a ping finally does arrive, it should be at the top of your fucking head (something like DIP financing that is right there at the top in the capital structure..Yeah, MBA is speaking...Booyah). In your head, you should be like Scrat (in Ice Age) and let the small 2x2 inch chat window be your acorn. It should be your most preserved asset and should receive your utmost attention.
Exaggerations apart, it boils down to the fundamental nature of gals and guys I guess. As Russsel Peters once said, guys can stare at nothing for however long thinking about nothing! As we try to rectify the staring problem, we should get some empathy. Repeated failures would shorten Mario's life and he will have to search for the mushroom again to regain the strength. But I guess, for once, if we switch off the laptop, there would be no Pings, no Buzzes, and no Mario fighting to straighten up things. Just love. And that’s the way we like it.